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Don't Worry, Be Happy

By Joanna Heston

If you’re reading through this copy of Shore Weddings magazine, it’s likely you’re recently engaged and are planning your wedding. While this is the most exciting and memorable time of your life, something you might not have realized is just how stressful the planning process can get. From choosing your venue, theme and linen colors to finalizing the seating chart that makes everyone happy, and every little detail in between, planning can become overwhelming. (Hello, wedding nightmares… yes, they’re real). We’ve put together a few tips to combat the stress and make the most out of this special time. 

Tackle One Thing at a Time
With so much inspiration from other weddings, bridal magazines and online resources, it’s easy to feel as if you need to get everything done at once. There are so many decisions that need to be made to ensure your day is uniquely about you and your future husband. Choose a few tasks to tackle each week and start checking things off. Be sure to refer to our detailed wedding checklist on Page 7 to stay on track. 

Delegate Tasks
If you have bridesmaids or family members who want to be involved with wedding details, let them! From stuffing save-the-dates and invitations to assembling centerpieces, welcome bags and bathroom baskets, there will be responsibilities that your friends and family can handle. Make a girls’ night of it or assign each bridesmaid a small task. Remember, your friends and family want to ensure your day is everything you dreamed of, and they are happy to help!

Practice Self-Care
Whether you plan to exercise, talk through it with your girls, or treat yourself to a spa day, self-care is super important when planning your wedding. Block out some time each morning to go for a run and clear your mind of everything related to your wedding. Need to vent? Do it! Don’t bottle up your feelings, your girlfriends will always be there to listen to your next rant. And be sure to leave a little “me” time on your calendar, just as you schedule a dress fitting, cake tasting or any other important detail. 

Consider Hiring a Wedding Planner
If your budget allows, consider hiring a wedding planner. No matter where you are in your process, planners are professionals who will help you stay organized and ensure you are sticking to your checklist and the details that are most important to you. This will not only alleviate prenuptial stress; it will ensure the day goes just as planned and takes another thing off your plate. 

Take a Break
It might start to feel as if all you ever talk about is your wedding. It’s OK to take a break and enjoy the other things happening in your life. Relish this exciting time with your fiancé and plan a few date nights per month without wedding talk. Your checklist will still be there, and you will still have time to check things off it. 

Focus on the Bigger Picture
When all else fails and the stress feels unbearable, take time to focus on the bigger picture. You have found the person with whom you plan to spend the rest of your life! Whether you listen to your first-dance song together or work on writing your wedding vows, remember this is a time to celebrate your love for one another and your future as Mr. and Mrs. 

Photo courtesy of Idalia Photography